That there should be boundaries
or limits on sex between consenting adults strikes many people as silly. Teens
are seldom encouraged to wait until marriage to be sexually active. We might
give a little pep talk about ‘waiting,’ but does anybody really expects kids to
listen? Instead, we teach them how to avoid pregnancies and disease. Pornography
is the guilty pleasure of millions of Americans today: young and old, male and
female, Christian and non-Christian alike. Even young kids with smartphones
know how to access the raunchiest stuff. A horrified Mom recently told me about
the porn she found on the phone of her 12 year-old son. Sadly, he’s not an
exception! Most couples that I marry
these days are already living together with no sense that they are doing
anything wrong or sinful.
When it comes to sex most are
wondering - “What’s the issue here? We’re
just enjoying ourselves.”
Before you decide that this blog
is not for you, let me hasten to say that God made sex and He made it
pleasurable! There is no way to make Scripture support the idea that ‘sex is
dirty and to be avoided at all costs!’
The Song of Solomon is an erotic poem included in the Holy Word that
celebrates the pleasure of love. What God did, however, is to create boundaries
for sexual enjoyment so that the gift does not enslave, demean, or destroy.
The ugly side of human sexuality is what it does to people when
misused.
Ask any woman was sexually abused
what violation that has done to her sense of worth.
Ask any man who was molested how
deep the pain goes even decades after the incident.
Ask a man who has become a slave
to porn addiction about the shame he feels after yet another trip through the
dark side of the Internet.
Ask a wife who is married to a
man who sees her only as a toy for his pleasure how she feels about herself or
her marriage.
God teaches us that sex is not
just ‘skin on skin.’ It is spiritual as well as physical. One of the great
mysteries in our sexuality is how much it affects our identity, our worth, our
health. Consider this wisdom. "You
say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even
though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. … But you can’t say that our bodies were made
for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about
our bodies. … Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as
this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you
realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and
was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with
a high price. So you must honor God with your body." (1 Corinthians
6:12-21, NLT)
Sex is not just for reproduction,
though obviously that is a prime reason for it.
Sex, in the context of the marriage covenant and expressed in a mutually
enjoyable way, builds and sustains
intimacy of the deepest kind. Our culture
thinks it is celebrating sexual liberation with all of the explicitly sexual
material in entertainment, in discarding the ideal of marital sex. In fact,
what is lauded is lust, not sex. Just as
with any appetite fed without restraint, finding pleasure in sex for its own
sake requires ever more and different expressions that lead to debauched
behaviors.
Are you struggling with guilt or
shame over your sexuality, Christian?
Bring this part of your humanity to Christ. Tell him your struggles.
Pray about the ways you are tempted, the hurts that have been visited on you by
others in past, the sins that still sting your conscience. Humble yourself
before Him and accept the wisdom of His Word, regardless of the mockery of the
world we live in. Thank Him for the
gift of your sexuality!
With the help of a mature
Christian, begin to live wholly and holy in this area of life. As with any
temptation, run from places where you may fall. Resist the Devil!
There is beauty in
holiness. It’s true! And here is the
word from the Word - "Don’t you
realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool
yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit
adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves,
or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these
will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were
cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the
name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." (1
Corinthians 6:9-11, NLT)
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