Tuesday, August 23, 2011

What kind of love is that?


In his book, The Pastor, Eugene Petersen has a chapter about his Uncle Sven, a man he never knew except through the stories his mother told. Sven was her favorite brother, 20 years older than she was. She told about a dashing, charismatic man that everybody loved. As an adult Eugene discovered that there was another side to the man. He was murdered by his wife after he came in drunk and sullen, abusing her yet again. A jury refused to convict her calling her choice to shoot him “justifiable homicide.”  Which picture was an accurate portrayal of Uncle Sven? In fact, he was both – a charming man and a cruel, drunken lout. Like all of us, he did not fit neatly into a little box of definitions.

The Bible has a story about a man who was called “a man after God’s own heart,” who was capable of stealing a trusted friend’s wife, plotting his murder, and trying to keep it quiet. This same man penned many of the most beautiful songs of the Scripture including the one that opens with the phrase, “The Lord is my shepherd.”  Was David a saint or a rogue? Both!  His sins were spectacular, his repentance heartfelt. Many of would likely refuse to be a friend with David if he attended our church or lived in our neighborhood. We probably would say, “why doesn’t he pull his act together?”

Life and the people living it are incredibly complex and that is why Jesus urges us to deep love which the Bible says "covers over a multitude of sins." (1 Peter 4:8, NIV) We are not being told to sweep it all under the rug! We live a life of patient love that allows grace to mature, full of a love that "is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs. … always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (1 Corinthians 13:5-7, NIV)

Some churches choose to create a culture of superficial ‘holiness.’  It is simple to understand – do this, don’t do that- dealing in stark black and white. It makes clear who is ‘in’ and who is ‘out.’  It tolerates no ambiguity of human nature. A first glance finds a church like that neat and tidy, no messed up people to deal with, no struggles apparent. But, all is not what it seems. Life refuses our quick fixes. People are not healed with formulas of behavior. My point today is not to excuse sin or justify hypocrisy. I simply want to remind myself and you that it is a fool’s game to think that people are simple to understand or that everything can be explained in simple terms. Some think the world would be easier to navigate if life were starkly black and white, no shades of gray. There would be good people and bad people, right choices and wrong ones. Doing good things would always bring good in return and nice guys would really finish first. But, it is simply not so.  Peterson quotes H. L. Mencken: “For every complex problem, there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong.”

The true life of the Spirit is one of patience, one that understands that God judges none of us based on the actions of a simple moment. Amazingly and wonderfully, He sees us in the totality of our experience. He alone is capable of tracing the threads of today’s thought back through the tangles of yesterday and the yesterdays before that. That is sobering, too, for it leaves us without excuse when He offers us grace and leads us to change. We cannot hide behind any rationale, person, or hypocrisy. In a word that sobers and comforts, we find this assurance. "For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account." (Hebrews 4:12-13, NIV)

May the Lord help us to pursue holiness, matched with love, and patiently wait for the completion of His work in us and our brothers.

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