I think I'll re-write a holiday song, "T'is the Season to be pressured, Oh, oh, oh, oh, how much can I stand?" I am fairly certain that it is not just me that feels the weight of social obligations, family expectations, the desire to something meaningful in God's name, and even the weight of my own hopes for the holiday. The pressure comes in all sizes of packages- "Could Christmas finally bring resolution to that old grudge that Aunt Ruth holds against me?" or- "I hope the gift I selected for him communicates the right message," or - "God please let me worship you from my heart." We pile on extra activities this time of year, stir in a large helping of travel, and what should be a time to celebrate too often turns into a month to endure. When we finally get to January, we breath a sigh of relief that it is finally over!
So how can we better celebrate this Season?
First of all, we need to become conscious of the expectations we are putting on ourselves and others. Often the pressure comes from a place deep in our sub-conscious where, in an almost childish way, we somehow believe that there is something magical about Christmas day. Sure, we may be a little more kind, somewhat more generous and thoughtful. But, a single day does not change a person's character or personality! Old Ebenezer Scrooge may have had a revelation about his life in Dickens's "Christmas Carol," but a true change of his ways required more than the visitations of Christmas' Past, Present, and Future! Just because it is Christmas, don't expect that miserable person that rains on your parade to suddenly become Sam Sunshine. Be realistic! Know, too, that one gift or gesture, as nice or generous as it may be, cannot erase a past event. Face the fact that a marriage that is cracking at the seams won't be repaired by an expensive gift. If we are realistic about the limits of the day, it will help us to celebrate with more joy.
Second, focus on the spiritual part of the Season. Yep, you've heard that before, too, haven't you? It is celebration of Christ's birthday. You won't find Him in the mall, on Overstock.com, or in the twinkling lights of the decorations. Giving gifts can be a lot of fun. Decorating our homes and offices can add a festive air. Parties are great, sometimes. It is worship, however, that brings true peace, that connects us to the One who came to be our Prince of Peace. Prioritize (don't you hate that word?) your life so that there are quiet moments in which you can listen to God's voice. Make time to pray and meditate. Serve someone in the Name of Jesus with no ulterior motive. Go to church having prepared your heart to participate in the corporate acts of worship.
Third, admit to yourself - "I cannot do it all!" Somebody will be disappointed that you didn't get to their party. Somebody won't get the perfect gift. The pie you bake might turn out with a burnt crust. That's life. Smile, anyway! It's all right to be human. Admit it - first to yourself. If you own your own humanity, it is a way to unload a ton of pressure.
And, don't forget to be child-like. Give yourself permission to experience some wonder. Let the Grinch be cynical! Laugh at those things that are absurd. Hug Grandma. Sing, even you can't, and enjoy the experience. Ponder the story of a Baby born in a manger, of Shepherds who heard angels sing, of God come to earth to change everything, including your eternal destiny. Ask God to give you the eyes of a child again.
I think if you'll do these things, January 1st will roll around, and you'll wish it were still Christmas, instead of being glad it is gone for another year. Let me know, won't you?
Read these ancient words today. I pray that you will experience something like the wonder of those who lived the story.
"And so it was, that, while they were there, the days were accomplished that she should be delivered. And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn. And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid. And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord." (Luke 2:6-11, KJV)
"And all they that heard it wondered at those things ..." (Luke 2:18, KJV)
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