"You made this happen!"

I'm sure that you have had someone stick their index finger in your face and place the blame for something squarely on YOU! In that moment the thing we want to do most is pay close attention and try to understand the problem, right? Not! "You" messages create instant defensiveness. If someone says to me, "You make me so ...." I am not inclined to ask why. Instead I feel threatened. Blame creates a barrier. However, if someone honestly says, "I am so....," I am more ready to try to understand their need and try to be a part of a solution..

Those of you who are as old as I am will remember the comedy sketch of Flip Wilson when he played 'Geraldine.' She would say some outrageous statement or spend too much money only to toss off the line that got a laugh every time- "The Devil made me do it." Though we see the humor in that, many of us are quite ready to blame the Devil, our boss, our spouse, our parents... you get the picture.... instead of taking responsibility for our choices. As long as we are looking for someone to point to as the 'cause' of our pain or problems, we will never be a part of constructive change, nor will others desire to work with us to make the situations better.

There's another problem with blame. Judging is involved! Life is seldom as simple as it appears. When we observe someone struggling with a life-controlling problem, there is always a temptation to point to the 'obvious' cause. My experience has taught me that 'the obvious' often is not anything remotely like the truth. People and situations are not one-dimensional; we are tangled webs of cause and effect, choice and consequence. That is why Jesus forbade those of us who would be like Him to make snap judgments about others. He said, “Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. For others will treat you as you treat them. Whatever measure you use in judging others, it will be used to measure how you are judged." Matt. 7:1-2 NLT

Be careful about accusing and blaming too quickly. Justice is lost when we rush to judgment! For an example let me use the tragedy of the life and death of Terry Schaivo. Can you stand one more word about it? This terrible tragedy's sorrow has been compounded by the shrill voices of blame and accusation that have made knowing the truth all but impossible. Is the husband the total villain some would make him out to be? I doubt that very much. Are her parents the saints that some in the media portray? Probably not. That situation was a complex one, full of human choices and conflicts, with no simple causes and no easy solutions. Only God and eternity will reveal the truth.

Our lives are much the same. We arrived at today as a result of decisions made by ourselves and others over the years, with intersecting influences of decisions made by people we don't even know. When crisis comes, it is both foolish and unproductive to demonize another as 'the reason' that we are in pain. Don't blame. Put away the pointing finger. Instead, commit to loving like Jesus loved, to seeking the wise gentleness of the Spirit that works to untie the knots that bind us to our sins.

Here's a Gospel story to ponder as you go your way today. John 8:1-11 NLT

Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them.
As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and Pharisees brought a woman they had caught in the act of adultery.

They put her in front of the crowd. “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the very act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”

They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, stone her. But let those who have never sinned throw the first stones!” Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.

When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman.

Then Jesus stood up again and said to her, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said.And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”
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"And I am changed, in the Presence of a Holy God."

Yahweh Shalom

Peace! It can be an elusive quality of life. Deadlines and pressures, conflicts and chaos, give us knotted muscles, furrowed brows, and hearts full of unrest. Sometimes, in the middle of a busy day, I close my eyes and escape- momentarily - to a place that seems peaceful: a mountain stream, a happy memory, a beach retreat; but it doesn't last as the phone rings and jars me back to reality. Most of us believe that peace is circumstantial- that if we could change our place, our position, or our resources - we would find peace. The Bible tells that true peace transcends our present situation!

In the book of Judges we learn that "the LORD is peace." The raiders of Midian had overpowered the Israelis, driving them into the hills where they hid in caves. Times were desperate. In chapter 6, we find Gideon, who was a farmer, trying to get food for his family during a time of war in Israel. He is hiding out near a winepress threshing grain and fearing for his life. Suddenly he is aware of a presence and a voice! {Judges 6:12 NLT} The angel of the Lord appeared to him and said, “Mighty hero, the Lord is with you!” Gideon, a realist, looks around at his circumstances and questions that assessment. He goes further and questions God's messenger about the desperate times that his people are experiencing. After seeing this angel consume a meal with supernatural fire, like a burnt offering, Gideon's heart changes. {Judges 6:22-24 NIV}“Ah, Sovereign LORD! I have seen the angel of the LORD face to face!” But the LORD said to him, “Peace! Do not be afraid. You are not going to die.” So Gideon built an altar to the LORD there and called it The LORD is Peace. (Yahweh Shalom)"

Peace comes when we live in the Presence of God. His Spirit produces a serenity that allows us to rise above situations that cause others to panic and thus, to be filled with fear or to fall apart. As I write this, I am aware of so many moments in my life when I have let life's circumstances steal God's peace from me. When I attempt to exert control over situations, when I try to impose a 'peace' of my own design, things usually get worse! Have you shared that experience? In the middle of a stressful day, have you ever exploded, only adding to your own stress and that of others? In the middle of a crisis, have you tried to force a solution and created more chaos with your efforts? I am guilty!

But when I take time to re-center myself in the Spirit, turning myself over to Him, asking that He come into my mind and heart - peace follows. Often the situation remains exactly the same, but I am changed. Don't misunderstand what God desires of you. His will is not that you detach yourself from reality, that you run away from life, or escape into denial. He wants us to be fully engaged with life, bringing order to chaos, healing to the broken, resisting evil wherever it makes its ugliness apparent. But, in the spiritual warfare of this Christian life, He also wants us to be people who live in His Peace! The OT word, "shalom" means more than the absence of conflict. Shalom indicates wholeness, restfulness, and satisfaction.

Today, before you engage with life's challenges, go into the Presence of God. Meditate on His Word, commit yourself and your circumstances to Him. Invite the Spirit to use you as a agent of the Kingdom of Heaven wherever life takes you throughout this day. When you find yourself tensing up, feeling the pressure, breathe a prayer for peace-- "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:7 (NIV)

In the presence of Your infinite might,
I'm so small and frail and weak;
When I see Your pow'r and wisdom,
Lord,I have no words left to speak.

And I cry holy, holy, holy God,
How awesome is Your name,
Holy, holy, holy God,
How majestic is Your reign;
And I am changed in the presence of a holy God.

In the presence of Your glory,
All my crowns lie in the dust;
You are righteous in Your judgments, Lord,
You are faithful, true, and just.

In the presence of a holy God,
There's new meaning now to grace;
You took all my sins upon Yourself,
I can only stand amazed.

And I cry holy, holy, holy God,
How awesome is Your name,
Holy, holy, holy God,
How majestic is Your reign;
And I am changed in the presence of a holy God.

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